EP 1 - Uncover your Inner Magic

Episode 1 - Uncover your Inner Magic - Dives right into switching our inner dialogue to become our best selves and uncover our divine inner magic!

Talking points and biggest take aways:

• Becoming self aware of ourselves so we can control what we can and release what we can't 
• Becoming your biggest fan! - Shifting our inner dialog to that of complete self love and support
• Importance of giving ourself grace when things don't go our way. Forgiving ourselves: 
• Hoʻoponopono (from the Hawaiian tradition of forgiveness): means I'm sorry, Please forgive. I love you. Thank you. 

Soul Rhythm Activation (Homework/Practice):

• Listen and become aware of your internal dialog 
• Shift your internal dialog and choose to be your biggest fan
• Write affirmation on sticky notes and place them as a reminder in place you spend most time in. 
• Begin embodying this new you through taking action in ways that are in line with these new beliefs and affirmation. 

The Full Episode - Uncover your Inner Magic: 

Hello my loves! Today I want to walk through the importance of self-awareness. I talk about this a lot, having self-awareness is huge in your efforts to transform yourself. We have to be aware of the negative patterns that we have, specifically, those negative beliefs that have been implanted in our minds because of past experiences. We all have these stories that have been dragged along for generation after generation that have created who we are today. Perhaps it was a really crappy experience. For example, I was made fun of when I was in elementary school and because of that I became super shy. So I then had this story in my head that I had to be this certain way to be cool and fit in. And of course that is not what we want to do. We want to be authentic and we want to be our true selves. We want to start by having awareness on what those negative beliefs are within us. What is that story you're telling yourself in your mind?  Take a moment and take note of what you have been telling yourself from the moment that you woke up this morning.

 Perhaps you did something like stubbed your toe and you thought, “ah, Carla, you're such a dummy”. It’s even those little internal dialogues that we have with ourselves that are so negatively impacting our growth and transformation. If you take note of how you speak to yourself internally, I bet you would realize that you would never speak that way to anyone else. So just starting to become aware of what that internal dialogue is, can be so important in our pursuit of becoming a better version of ourselves. So we start with awareness, but more importantly, after you become aware, you have to give yourself some grace. When I started this transformational journey I was really hard on myself, and to this day, I still revert back to just being really hard on myself because I'm just so committed to becoming better. But the truth is, being hard on yourself is also a negative self-talk. So we have to give ourselves grace and forgive ourselves. 

 There is a phrase in hawaiian culture that I think of often. Ho’oponopono. Which translates “ to make things right.”  It's a practice of forgiveness. So I apply that to my life as “ I'm sorry, I forgive you. I love you. Thank you.” What a beautiful practice and grouping of words.  So you're asking for forgiveness from yourself. Most of the time you're talking to that inner child, that wounded person within you, that so desperately wants to be good. We were born perfect just as we should, so unique, but then we have all these experiences that compound on top of one another that create all these wounds. And so it's so important to forgive ourselves so we can truly transform. And then from there “I love you. Thank you.” So that just basically turns the table to, I love you so much, and I'm still thankful for you to be here.  I not only use this with myself, but with others as well. My good friend, Mickaela McNatt is such an inspiration that always bolsters me to want to become better. She taught me this phrase and to release people that are negative in your life that have affected you in one way or another, because at the end of the day, nobody means wrong. Those people have their wounds too. And that's why they've treated you the way they have.. And so forgiving yourself and learning to forgive others, giving yourself grace, and then choosing a new belief is imperative to this journey of transformation.

So let's just go back to that awareness. Let's take the podcast, For example, I have been wanting to start one for years. I remember listening to other podcast hosts and thinking, “Oh my gosh, that must be so much fun, and they are so inspiring,  I have so much to share. Well, but, nobody's going to  follow me. Nobody's going to listen. Like, why would I do that?”  what a negative inner talk! My inner dialogue was crap, and so I had to do a lot of self-awareness. Realizing that I was doubting myself and my capabilities was eye opening, I decided to forgive myself for feeling that way and to change the script. So I started working on myself which looked like jumping on my stories more frequently on instagram, then doing one IGTV after the other until I felt more comfortable on camera. That's when I realized that I love speaking to people and sharing what I have to say. I've always been a personal development junkie. But I realized that I had this inner desire to share with people the things that have helped me.

 Now if I really were to break down this whole journey of self awareness, This started back in middle school. Remember when you used to get in trouble at school and they would make you write lines in your notebook “I won't put gum under the chair, I won't put gum under the chair, ect.” I did that to boost my self-esteem. I would write “I am the smartest and most beautiful girl in school. I'm the smartest and most beautiful girl in school. I am a good public speaker. I am a good public speaker.”  This reverts back to my mom, always telling me, people are going to see me as I see myself, doesn't that connect so beautifully. People are going to read into that self-conscious energy that we have within us. So it's our job to boost ourselves. And so I started with these lines and then as I grew older, then I started just putting post-it notes on my mirror. Long story short, there are so many ways that you can truly start to dig up your inner magic. You are so unique, There's nobody like you, And It's  our job as part of this beautiful human life experience to dig that beauty up and remove all the dense layers that are dulling that magic. 

 You have to gain awareness of what that inner dialogue sounds like and give yourself grace, forgive yourself for being mean to yourself, and release those beliefs. How do we release them? We prove them wrong and we choose a new belief. So going back to the lines that I was writing in middle school, “I'm a good public speaker”. Back then I had no knowledge of how to publicly speak, but had I stayed stuck in believing that I am shy and that I was incapable, I wouldn't have grown. So I chose to flip the script and to honor my desire to want to share my magic with the world. This takes time, so have grace with yourself.  I can vividly remember the first time that I volunteered to speak in front of the class and read a poem that I wrote. My hands were shaking,  My heart was beating out of my chest, but I did it. And after I did it, I felt so much better.  So this brings me to the next piece, you want to bring it all together. After you create awareness, you change the script and then you actually want to take action on this new belief. So you want to start acting on how this belief is actually true. And sometimes there's a learning curve and there's a little bit of fear because fear is there to keep you safe. We want to lean into that fear, I always say fear and excitement feels the same way in your body. So lean into the fear, but channel it as excitement. So I chose to stand up in front of the class and read my poem and as scared as I was I chose to release this thought of being shy, and step into this new me. Throughout college and my young adulthood after college, I put myself In a lot of opportunities to speak in large crowds, making me a lot more comfortable. Of course, there's always going to be new devils with new levels, if  I'm in front of  10,000 people, that's out of my comfort zone. So I may experience a little bit of nervousness, but I'm putting myself out there every time and I'm believing that I am doing good work and that I'm good at what I do. 

So let's go ahead and sum it all up. You want to make sure that you gain awareness of what your internal dialogue is. So as you're going about your day, just start noticing how you speak to yourself and the repeating dialogue, because we all have it, whether it's feeling like you're not smart enough or that people won't respect you. Maybe you feel like your magic is dulled and we want to work through being authentic and trusting who we are and what we're doing, I'm sorry, please forgive me. I love you. Thank you. I love closing my eyes and just putting my hand on my heart and connecting in with all the parts that are me and actually forgiving myself in cutting that cord and releasing that resentment, then choosing a new belief. I encourage you to grab a post-it note, write that belief in. it's an I am statement, or I feel and post it all over your house, perhaps in your cubicle or your office, wherever you spend the most time in, just post it so that it's a good reminder. You can always see it. And every time you see it, I want you to feel how it feels to be that way. So imagine your future self, and just feel into that. For example, we'll go back to mine.  I'm a good public speaker. So I put my hand to my heart and I envisioned myself as a good public speaker. I see it in my mind's eye. I hear myself speaking and I feel it in my body really connecting in with that new belief.

XX,

Carla Marconi - @carla11marconi  

Holistic Business Coach || Mindset & NLP Expert 

Breathwork & Yoga Facilitator || Hypnotherapist