EP 19 - The Secret to Living the Live You Deserve!

This Episode is all about the secret to building a life you love, taking your business to the next level and getting all the things you want in life! This is such a juicy topic that I know so many of you are dying to know all about! 

Talking Points and Takeaways:

Be honest:
How many “strategies” have you learned and actually implemented? 

How many ideas have you had that you have actually materialized? 

How many times have you looked at someone else’s life and judged them for their decisions when deep inside you know you are doing the damn thing?

Ask yourself:
Am I showing up for myself and my dreams like I would show up for a loved one?

From here on out, commit to: 

• Showing up for YOU for realz - Do what you say you are going to do 
• Staying in your own lane, the grass isn't greener on the other side 
• No longer making excuses for why you haven’t gotten what you wanted, instead find new choices, solutions and opportunities. 
• Getting out of your own way 

 Soul Activation/ Homework:

• Choose you EVERY single day 
• Maintain clarity of what you want 
• Upgrade your beliefs and keep choosing YOU! 
• Honoring your own journey and life decisions - stay in your own lane!! 

Full Episode : The Secret to Living the Life You Deserve!

The Secret to Living the Life You Deserve!

Today's topic is a juicy one that I am sure many of you are just dying to know all about. Which is the Secret to building a life you love, the secret to taking your business to the next level, the secret to getting all the things you want in life! Here's the Secret… There isn't one! The Secret is YOU! And I know you probably think I’m horrible and you're so disappointed because we all wish there was a simple answer to getting all these things right? It all really boils down to you truly believing in yourself, truly believing in what you're wanting and what your inner whispers are telling you. Really, we have everything we need to live this life that we all deserve within us!

I’m going to be honest with you, there are thousands of strategies to achieve this life, but if you find a strategy and implement it, but your energy isn't there then it's not going to work. Let me ask… How many strategies for your business or life have you actually learned and implemented? Because we are constantly learning, there is so much information out there and if we really sum up all the different strategies for everything we want to accomplish, the answers are there, but why aren't we all succeeding in the ways we want to succeed? And the answer to that is because of our belief system. So it is through changing our internal belief system that then shapes our internal dialogue then our external dialogue, our actions, the way we react, then our reality. We truly want to look inward to change outward. 

The reason I created this business is because I learned that no strategy alone will give you what you want. You really need to implement that strategy, but first you must do the inner work to get you to the level you need to be to get you what you want. When I was selling essential oils, I can't tell you how many times I was in this hamster wheel, hustling, doing the work and implementing strategies, but my energy and belief system weren’t in the right place. Therefore, what I was projecting to my potential clients, and into the community was not allowing me to magnetize the things I was wanting in this life. I was quite literally getting in my own way. And I know it sounds pretty simple, and it is! But it's not easy. Which is why I’m about to go through a really cool belief busting script that's going to help you clean up those negative beliefs and start showing up for yourself. But before we do that I have a really big question for you, and I want you to journal on this question and really give yourself time to think about it.

Are you showing up for yourself and your dreams the way you would show up for your loved ones?

Truly be honest with yourself and visualize how you show up for your loved ones, and for your clients. What does that look like? How often do you show up for them, what's your energy like, how do you speak to them? Now mirror that and see if it's at all similar to how you show up for yourself and your dreams. And I am willing to bet, just from my own experience with clients and with myself, that you are not showing up for yourself as much as you should be. In fact, you are not showing up for yourself more than you are showing up for them which is really how it should be. The truth is that we are our biggest fans and the only way to do anything in life  in excellence and grandness is by being very finite with that statement. Truly I believe that in order to show up with your full essence and full capacity as yourself you have to show up believing in yourself 110%. And that means showing up for yourself for real. When you say you're going to do something for yourself, do you actually do it? It's important for me to mention that when you're wanting to  show up to do anything there has to be clarity in what is important to you. To show up for yourself you have to know what is important to you, what are non-negotiables and be super clear on what you want to do. Then actually do what you say you're going to do. 

From here on out you need to commit to yourself! Commit to showing up for YOU, doing what you say you're going to do for yourself! Follow through! And the Stay in your own lane! Stop comparing yourself to everyone around you, the grass isn't always greener on the other side. You have no idea about the struggles that person may face. We all have our own unique journey and all that comparing yourself does is bring you down, it's putting you into a scarcity mindset. And so if you have anyone on your social media that makes you feel like you are less go unfollow them. Remove them from your following and to keep yourself unexposed from their content, and then choose to look inward! When you look inward and choose to compare yourself to your old self you will actually see that you have come a long way and that you're pretty damn awesome! 

Now, When you have those really really stubborn, deeply rooted beliefs, I have this super magical belief busting script. And this will be a great topic to go in and journal about again, so that you can start clearing the clutter of all these negative beliefs. Really take your time to think into each of these questions so you can start to bolster yourself and become your best self. 

1. What’s the negative belief/old story that keeps coming up? 
2. If you were to know, what was the root cause for this belief? (think upbringing, life experiences, people that you looked up, etc) 
3. What is the benefit you get when you continue to have this belief?
4. What is it costing you (in your business and life) to hold onto this belief? 
5. What will it cost you (in your business and life) if you hold onto this belief a year from now? 
6. Challenge the belief: 
• Is this belief true for everyone? 
• In your life, has this belief been proven to be true ALL THE TIME? 
7. If you are ready to let go of this belief, then it’s a LIE. So what is the new truthful belief and new story you can begin to tell? 
8. How could my life, business and relationships benefit from this new belief? 
9. Take a moment and CHOOSE this new belief! See it, hear it, feel it in every cell of your body! Amplify it, make it bigger and brighter!
10. TAKE ACTION: What is one action you can take right now that aligns with this belief? 

And that my friends, is how you begin to rewrite your story. It's so beautiful, you get to choose, you get to be at the driver's seat, and you get to shift anything that's no longer serving you. Now, maybe these questions brought up some negative feelings, if they did, I highly encourage you to be with those feelings for a moment. Notice why they are coming up, and then choose to either do some breathwork, cry, laugh, journal it out, objectively feel through it all and then choose how you want to feel.

XX,

Carla Marconi @carla11marconi

Holistic Business Coach || Mindset & NLP Expert

Breathwork & Yoga Facilitator || Hypnotherapist