EP 13 - Balancing your divine energy

Episode 13 is all about balancing our divine feminine and divine masculine energy so we can find ease and flow in our lives. I'll be diving into when each energy is needed and how you can navigate through both seamlessly.

Talking points and takeaways:

• What it means to be in your divine masculine and divine feminine energy. And when each is most needed.
• Are you believing in yourself?
• Diving into your divine feminine energy and how you can nurture that part of you.
• All about your masculine energy and when to live in it / how to nurture it. 
• Balancing the two energies to find a flow.

 Soul Rhythm Activation (Homework/Practice):

• Stay aware of which energy you're living the most in and ask yourself if it's working.
• If living majorly in one energy than the other, and it's making life more difficult, then what steps can you take to find your balance?

Full Episode : Balancing your Divine Energy

Balancing your divine energy

Ever since I started my coaching journey I've been told I needed to live more in my feminine energy or that I live too much in my masculine energy and that was specific to me because I was very much in my masculine pretty much since I can remember. So I started to kind of put the puzzle pieces together of what these two energies meant within my whole being and my whole life, but it took a while to actually understand. So my goal for this episode was to demystify these concepts and hone in on how to leverage these energies within our being, soul and our body so we can find more ease and flow in anything and everything that we do. The truth is that being more masculine or feminine in your approach to things is good and bad depending on what you're trying to do. For example, If I'm trying to be competitive and in go mode then I need to9 be in my masculine. However, if I need to be more creative, nurturing, or expressive then its highly in my favor to be in my divine feminine. If I want to be in tune with my intuition and feel truly in flow with things and really be connected to my inner guidance system like we talked about earlier in the show then I need to be in our feminine. So to start It's super important to zig zag between the two energies and find the balance between the two depending on what we are approaching in life.

When I learned this it was a huge relief for me because I am one That wants to do everything in my power to do things well and the right way and the smarter not harder way. So when I would be told that I need to live more in my feminine I felt like I was doing it wrong. When you're trying to do things and constantly thinking and thinking of all the things you have to do that means you're in your masculine.So not too long ago i kept being told that I just need to be and not do anything and just be. Which totally confused me! How can you just do nothing and get the results you want. Now it all makes sense. And It's important for me to clarify that it's not through sitting and doing nothing that you can accomplish things. It’s in finding a balance of the two. So now talking in terms of business, I have a lot of clients that are doing all the right things when they start working with me. They're doing doing doing, but where is your energy? Are you believing that you're attracting the right people? Are you believing in the product or service you're providing? Are you truly believing in your capacity and the odds of you getting what you want? And it's in that belief that we then transition into that being part. It's in the embodiment of what you want and that's when the being piece comes in that then we begin attracting more of what we want. And that part of embodiment and being is the feminine side of you. And this is not gender specific so no matter how you identify we all have these and it's in our best interest to tap into both.

In efforts to demystify these two energies I first want to dive into what your divine energy is. Most times we have experiences that have created these triggers and wounds that bring out the negative aspects to either of these energies so we will go through those as well. So let's dive into the divine feminine energy. So this person has really healthy boundaries, you don't need validation. So if you're looking for validation all the time you really need to check in with yourself and nurture your feminine. This person honors their emotions so you want to feel the feels and transmute them through feeling them then choose how you want to feel rather than bottling them up. I’m going to be honest with you guys in these last few months I have probably cried more than I did through my whole 20s. And the reason I’m saying this is I cried a lot because I allowed myself to feel my feelings. So if I start to feel like I need to release then I’ll do a breathwork session or if I need to cry then I’ll just let it all out! And thank God I have an understanding future husband that totally understands me and loves me for who I am. Which I hope you do as well, because we don't need to be with people who are judgmental. And yes, maybe to society I look kind of crazy because I'm crying about things that others don't understand, but that is me honoring my feelings and doing what I need to do in order to transmute them and move forward.

So this divine feminine energy is grounded, it feels supported by themselves but also the universe and those around them. And this all goes back to boundaries because when we have healthy boundaries we obviously don't have people stepping in or we know how to say no, but also we are okay with asking for help. And this one is a huge one! So for example in my case, I have always lived majorly in my masculine. So I felt Like i needed to do everything in my power to get what I want and that I needed to do it all on my own because I needed validation so I felt like I couldn't ask for help because that would mean I was less of a person. Do you see where all of these are wounded feminine but a bit of wounded masculine as well because where we want to be is to feel empowered in that we have the power to do this but we also can ask for help and have support, but we don't need validation because we are enough. I have realized personally that if we can master balancing our feminine and masculine energies then we can really truly be invincible because at the end of the day we know who we are, we know what we are doing and we can use what we have within us in harmony. When your divine feminine is in harmony we don't get carried away with worries or lack of faith. This goes back to feeling supported. We need to trust the energy around us, God, Spirit, the universe, and the people around us are there to support us. Get super clear on where you're headed, what you're doing and why you're doing it and know that every single one of your efforts are supported, and once you do that everything else falls away.

Now diving into our divine masculine energy which so many of us live in because society has told us to just do do do all the time. When I was in college I was a social butterfly and school was not my priority but I did what I needed to in order to get good grades. I've always kind of worked hard and played hard. So I always did everything to the 110%, I've always been really intense. That's why in the last few years I've focused so much on slowing myself down. But that intensity is when we are in our masculine so when i was in school I was working almost 40 hours while still being a full time student then while i wasn't working i became the president of my organization, so i was doing really good work while still partying really hard. So what did I do to manage? I got adderall from friends, which I am not proud of, but it made me feel invincible because I could study, work, and party all in little sleep. That was me living all in my masculine. I felt like I had to take adderall and make myself a robot so I could do everything and that's what society instils in us especially with social media and that we have instant gratification. Everyone wants a response immediately. In efforts of setting boundaries for ourselves we need to know that we don't need that instant response. Take a step back and give ourselves a break so we can then actually do more. Because When you take that step back then you are actually creating expansion in your whole being. So let's talk a bit more about the divine masculine. When it is not wounded its very heart driven, still logical but connected to divine. So I would see this as a merriment between masculine and feminine. When you're connected to your intuition, you have that faith and trust and you're also doing things in the logical piece. So you have a good balance between that logic and trusting that you don't need to have control over all the puzzle pieces because they will all fall into place. You take action but from the standpoint of abundance.You're not taking action because you think you'll miss out but because we know that there is so much more out there and more coming to us so we continue to participate and take action. We don't blame anyone or have to prove ourselves to anyone. Confident but not arrogant. We don't want to put anyone down, we are just confident in who we are, what we’re doing and why we are doing it. The wounded masculine is ego driven, so many of us do things out of ego and i think this is where checking back in with what our motive is. You're only driven by logic, everything is based on facts and everything is black and white, and very scientific.

So what do you do if you have wounded masculine or wounded feminine qualities? Which we all do, and just know these are things we can change. So always have awareness and then choose to reframe it. Why are you doing this? Why are you reacting? How can Your higher self be present in this moment to deal with this situation for the greatest good of all and for harmony? These are questions to always ask yourself that are going to elevate your subconscious thinking and always trust that the answers will come and it's not always logical. This will elevate you to a different kind of thinking that will attract really high vibe states and things.

XX, 

Carla Marconi @carla11marconi 

Holistic Business Coach || Mindset & NLP Expert 

Breathwork & Yoga Facilitator || Hypnotherapist